Well, I haven't had much time to decorate for Christmas, but I did find these while thrifting..
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| upcycled & vintage sheets |
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| felt cutouts etc. |
Cute right? I found a "make believe" at the thrift store and decided it was perfect for my own version. I really love how it came out :).
I'm also getting rid of all of my Pyrex, but the pink. Keep your eye on my Etsy Shop.
In other news, If you follow me on Facebook, and have joined the Pyrex Group, you might know whats going on with me right now. Somewhat. As I'm being vague out of sheer embarrassment. I really appreciate all of your support!!! From the deepest, sincerest part of my heart ...THANK YOU ALL!!! The outreach from everyone has been beyond anything I would have ever expected!!!! It's been hard, & it's been tough, BUT I'm a fighter, and refuse to give in. Both My Wonderful Husband and I are trying to the ends of the earth, to make things better. And of course there's our miracle to consider, Samuel Lucas. Whom we both cherish with every fiber of our being!
I never would have thought we'd be here. See, if you know who I am, you know I'm a believer of ...well... Love. It might be silly to most, but not to me. I grew up thinking this was a way of life. I grew up loving the stories of Prince Charming coming to rescue the Princess from a horrible and wicked life. To this day, romance plays a huge part in my life.
I guess it's time to get real. Things aren't what I expected. Things aren't at that "happily ever after"point.
Things are... well to be quite honest, rough. I miss the passion. I miss the spontaneity. I MISS.. the ROMANCE. Among other things, this is what I miss most of all. It used to be so passionate! So raw! So RARRR!
It can get there at times, but it seems I have to... try really hard. And let me tell ya, I'm not used it!! Even so. I try, I try hard. So hard that at times I feel as though.. well quite frankly, I feel as though I'm not what my Husband wants. Not good enough. Not intelligent enough. Not.. "bad" enough. I know I'm smart, I can be Sexy, and know I wouldn't have any second guess if I were single. We've all been there.
Clearly we want this to work, or we'd be signing divorce papers by now. WHAT am I missing here??? I come to you with sincerity, honesty, and most of all? In search of how to keep what's most important to me, alive. LOVE. I don't believe Love is a chosen decision. I had no control over falling in love with my Husband. I don't believe in being "bad". I grew up learning that being a good girl (as well as sexy and desirable), is what a good husband really wants. I definitely don't believe in being FAKE. Honesty is my best quality!
Newho, I do LOVE my Husband, and He LOVES me! Though it seems things are starting to go south. ..FAST. Where did I go wrong? Have I let myself go? Am I asking for too much?? The bottom line is, I LOVE my Man. I always have, always will, and I won't give in so easily! However, I do need that passion back!! That connection that keeps us together! Ladies.. Gentlemen.. you know what I'm saying.
Newho, I do LOVE my Husband, and He LOVES me! Though it seems things are starting to go south. ..FAST. Where did I go wrong? Have I let myself go? Am I asking for too much?? The bottom line is, I LOVE my Man. I always have, always will, and I won't give in so easily! However, I do need that passion back!! That connection that keeps us together! Ladies.. Gentlemen.. you know what I'm saying.
I know there will be those of you who will read this, and think I'm ..well.. over exaggerating (a fan club if you will). Being to dramatic. All I have to say is, well.. Take it as you will. Period. My interest isn't to convince anyone. What I want to know is, how do I get this back..
Am I on a different playing field than I used to be?? Tell me. What do you think??
<3,
Veronica
Well you're not the only one going through these changes. I'm only 23 and my husband is 22 and I have recently been feeling the same way. When I tried to talk to my friends and get advice they simply told me that I am way too young to be feeling like this. But honestly I don't think they understand how I feel and that I don't like feeling this way, that I want to be what I used to be and I want to feel sexy and I want to want my husband all of the time like I used to. But most of the time it's me not him, I'm the one who doesn't feel the spark it takes a lot for me to get that way too... I believe you have to do some work on yourself to build yourself up again you may not see it but a lot of it has to do with self esteem. You have to first love yourself 100% and be happy with you who are, you may not be who you want to be but you have to accept what you have become and learn to love yourself. Once you learn to love yourself you will be able to give your all and love your husband in that passionate way that you want to.
ReplyDeleteI know that marriage is not always easy, heck most of the time it is really hard. Communication is one of the most important qualities couples need to have to understand each other and make it through things. Tell him what you want and encourage him to tell you what he wants. Try new things in the bedroom that you have never tried before to make it interesting, dress up in lingerie when he least expects it. Step away from your comfort zone a little bit ;)
The Army sent us on a marriage retreat back in July and we really needed it, I truly was blessed to be able to go on this mini vacation with my husband and the kids. They took the kids and put them in day care while we had classes about marriage with a bunch of other couples and believe it or not everyone had the same complaints and problems and every couple said that their biggest problem was that they were not having enough sex, sex is a big thing in a healthy marriage. We did a group experiment where the guys went into one room and the ladies stood in the other room, each group got a huge piece of paper to write down what they wanted from their husband/wife to spice up the love life.
Some examples of what were on each list...
WIVES:
ReplyDelete-For the husband to be more romantic
~light candles
~Play slow love songs
~even after all the years women still like to get flowers and chocolate
~Put the kids to bed early and make sure they are sleeping so husband and wife can have alone time
~ 4 play to get things spiced up don't always just get right to the point
~be more affectionate not only when they when they want sex but all the time, like when the wife is in the kitchen go give her a kiss. When you're watching a movie together cuddle and rub her head arm or the simply hug her women like the comfort
HUSBANDS:
~be more spontaneous
~ dress up more often
~ wear lingerie
~ have sex in more places than just the bedroom
~ initiate the intimacy don't make the husband start it all of the time, men want to feel wanted just like women do.
~ 4 play
~ toys and sex games
Well those are just a few examples of the long list that we all had and it was funny to see that all of the woman wanted their husbands to be more romantic and affectionate and all of the husbands wanted their wives to be wild sexy and more sexual. When we all went back into the room to discuss what we had came up with everyone was shocked and agreed with what each group had came up with. But all in all it takes both husband and wife to keep the relationship spicy if you try harder to please him he will also try harder to please you but sit down together and talk about it. Communication is key.
Veronica I am going to see if I can find the work book that we did at the marriage retreat and if I find it I am going to send it to you, it was a lot of help for us. I will contact you on Facebook to let you know, I haven't seen in it a while but I probably put it away somewhere. You are still in my thoughts and I'm still praying for you. I hope you find your happiness again real soon <3
Jessica Rae
Part of what you are talking about is just the normal ebb and flow of a long term relationship. There is no doubt that it is hard at times and sometimes you question the whole thing. Don't give up - ever - but understand that a relationship such as yours will have cycles. Ups and downs, good times/bad times. It's OK as long as you never lose sight of that special something you have together. Sometimes you have to think really hard and dig pretty deep to find that!! :)
ReplyDeleteAlso, I remember being a "younger mum" with young children. Always tired, doing too many things, never quite enough time or money - someone always seemed to be sick! You mentioned that your little guy and his dad have not felt well and you weren't feeling great either. This is so hard for you I know and it will wear you down as well. In another post you alluded to some "baggage" with family - that's hard too! Never a right answer there!!
So I'll stop rambling and just say - it's OK. Relax and trust that things will be better. Never lose sight of the good things as these thoughts can sustain you during challenging times.
Warm wishes and positive thoughts,
Jane
(lepacoco on Flickr)
Hi Ladies, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate your advice. It puts' alot of this ickiness into perspective. I'll take all the help I can get at this point. I'm working on focusing on the positives, instead of the negatives that keep coming up. I've also realized these long term relationships really take alot out of you, and need of work and attention to keep things going in the right direction. We're both happy to know, we both want this to work. Which has taken alot of stress off of the whole situation.
STAYING POSITIVE!! & Love You Ladies! Thank You Again!